This is what my future looks like, I think. It is how I feel today, anyway. I shot this in 1974 somewhere between Gainesville and Cedar Key. The fellow was sitting on his porch smoking his pipe.
I can't remember if we spoke or if I just got out of my car and started taking pictures. That, however, would be difficult to imagine. God only knows, though. Young boys are rash.
You can't help but wonder about his life.
I love the details now, the worn, dirty shirt, the clothes hanging on a wire in the humid air never to completely dry (though an iron will finish the job), the worn and torn chair he sits in and the rocking chair with the sweat stain where a back would rest. This was the world that surrounded the university.
It is mid-afternoon on Sunday. I woke at four-thirty and got up at five. I made coffee, etc. But I haven't left the house. I haven't talked to anyone for days. Something is wrong, of course. For two days, I've been going through my photographs, sorting, scanning, discarding. I've thrown away old prints and negatives I no longer care for. I am drowning in photographs, negatives, images. And books. I've been throwing those away, too. I feel I have to get out from under things, get organized, get. . . I don't know. . . lighter.
But I don't seem to be making progress. This is going to take months. I want to rent a storage unit and just shove it all in there. I'll pay a couple years rent and give someone the key, and in a few years when I'm gone. . . .
It can all go in the trash.
Going through it all, I am experiencing nostalgia porn. I don't mean that in any good way.
I have to get out from under this mountain of past, however, to move into the future.
Of course, there is the other thing that is slowing me down. Two other things.
I'm sure that cleaning up my past is my way of just not dealing with the present. Nostalgia porn distraction. I've been bothering my friends with it shamelessly. I've gotten some texts wondering what the hell I'm doing. Well, it was like someone who sat in the house doing drugs for days alone. You lose your perspective a bit. Or more.
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Woke before five once again. Stayed in bed until that magic hour, though. I went to my mother's house for dinner last night. She's worried about me, wants to take care of me, and she also wants some company. I turned her television off "Branded" and onto the news, but that was useless, for all stations went on endlessly about Kobe Bryant. What a great man said an seemingly endless stream of NBA players and broadcasters.
"He was a rapist," I said. "He paid a woman a kajillion dollars to drop the case."
I'm glad I didn't write that. Here's what happened to a reporter who did.
Washington Post journalist is suspended after tweeting a link to a 2016 story about Kobe Bryant's rape case just hours after he died in helicopter crash
•Felicia Sonmez is a national political reporter for The Washington Post
•She was suspended by the newspaper on Sunday after controversial tweet
•Sonmez was roasted for a post hours after Kobe Bryant died in helicopter crash
•She tweeted link to a 2016 story about the 2003 rape allegations against Bryant
•Twitter users blasted Sonmez for the timing of the post, which she then deleted
•Sonmez replied that 10,000 people sent her 'abuse and death threats'
•In 2003, a 19-year-old woman alleged that Bryant raped her in Colorado hotel
•The charges were dropped and the two sides settled a civil lawsuit
Again. . . why am I so cynical? I have to stop it. It has cost me too much, I'm certain.
I think I'll put up another post after this one, a happier one that will make people feel good. Yup. That's what I'll do.
ReplyDeleteThose are super ... man.
My Jersey Girls Text Thread was full of "Kobe this and Kobe that" -like any of them were huge basketball fans even.
I wrote out a long text stating that of course it was a tragedy but isn't every death of someone who - dies? Mostly? Especially for their loved ones etc.
And that he was accused of rape and that the older I got the more creeped out I was becoming about "celebrity death TV coverage." And that while everyone deserves second chances - and while he seemed like a good family man - he was accused of rape - and his wife did file for divorce before the reconciled.
And that I had just spent 9 hours at Brigham & Women's hospital in the NeuroICU with a friend who's husband had half his skull removed in order to "clip" a brain aneurysm the size of a golf ball - and that while I was walking through the floor - families were gathering and weeping and saying good bye to a kid whose head was bashed in from a car accident.
I deleted it and didn't say anything. Instead I texted my old friend Brandon - who I used to visit at Villa Nova and go to March Madness games with a simple: "Wow Kobe" and he wrote back at least something comforting: "charbroiled beef"
There is something wrong with me. And that is why I feel good here. :)
Yea yea. Happy Happier.
You should see what I wrote about it to Q. Something wrong with me for sure.
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